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14.12.2018 17:07:48

The role of fathers in raising children: it is a man's work, too


There are numerous cultural and other barriers preventing fathers from fully caring for mothers during the prenatal period, participating in the childbirth process, and providing care for their newborn children. However, with each new generation, fathers everywhere do more housework and participate more actively in caring for young children. More and more men understand the importance of a close father-child bond and seek to establish a closer relationship with their children. These trends are visible everywhere, and will likely increase along with education and female equality.

Without exception, fathers influence children from the very beginning of their children’s lives. The same applies to mothers. Their impact can be both positive and negative. For example, infants whose fathers are highly involved in their care develop rapidly, while children whose fathers are depressed or absent during the first year after the child’s birth can manifest behavioural and emotional problems. Research shows that the emotional state of the parents may also have a lasting impact.

In the words of the singer Samandar, «My father had a huge impact on me in my childhood. He used to take me with him everywhere. People say that my sense of music has a strong influence of my father. I still try to be like him. If not for my father, I would not have become the person I am today», says Samandar, a famous singer.

Involving fathers in housework and caring for their children is also important for women’s empowerment as it is more difficult for mothers to participate in public life without this support. One of the main factors causing a lower employment among single mothers compared to that among mothers with intact families is not having a partner to share child care responsibilities. Boys who observe their fathers helping with household chores and child care are more likely to engage in these habits as adults. This «transfer of care from one generation to another» can be a key factor in transforming gender relations and eliminating gender inequality to ensure a wider range of opportunities for both boys and girls. If a mother and father work together as partners, the home can be a much happier place. «From the first moments of conception of life — both parents participate in it. The father defines the sex of the baby and the mother carries them under their hearts up to birth.

«To build complete harmony in the personality of a child, participation of both parents is of equal value and importance. I am fortunate to have a spouse who thinks the same way. He has always supported, inspired and encouraged me to strive for bigger results. After all, any success in the family — father’s, mother’s or children’s — is common success and something to be proud of. If not for my husband’s support, I would not have managed all my duties. I am especially glad when my kids go to museums and exhibitions with their father. Children subconsciously mimic their parents. So fathers are also responsible for the values of their children», — says Rodica Verbeniuc, a happy mother and Corporate Communication Director at Ucell.

Fathers’ involvement in their children’s upbringing produces positive impacts not only on families, but also on fathers themselves. Fathers who report maintaining close ties with their children live longer lives, have fewer health problems, are less likely to abuse alcohol and use drugs, are more productive at work, and report being happier than fathers who do not have such good relationships with their children.

«The most important responsibility of every father is to be a good role model! A man becomes a father not when his baby is born, but when he takes care of his child with love and affection… To become a loving father is the biggest achievement of a man!», says Farkhad Artikbaev, father of a special child.

Evidence shows that a child’s development is about not only good healthcare and education but, primarily, it is about living in a family with a responsive, loving mother and father.


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